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Why people don’t set goals – What about you?

There are many reasons why some people don’t set goals. I guess everyone did experience this in their own life or observed it in others.

Reasons why people don’t set goals:

– nobody taught them (not even in school) the power and value of goal setting. They can’t use this tool, because they don’t know about it
Goal setting is a tool that helps you step by step achieving what you want.

– they don’t have a reason. First you have to really know what you want and then you can use goals to help getting it

– they don’t know how to use it. Some people think that they have goals, but in actual fact they have just wishes.

– fear help us, but it can also be paralysing. We often have to overcome some fears when we set goals: for example fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of rejection.
If we don’t overcome these fears we only produce mediocre results or we don’t set goals at all.

– people are disorganized or too busy or too stressed and they come up with excuses why they can’t set goals right now. They don’t want new challenges.
Have you ever said to yourself: “I will set some goals later when I have more time, right now I am too busy or I don’t feel like it.”
The key is: you have to MAKE time for goal setting – it doesn’t just happen!

Question for you:

???Why don’t you set goals???

I can tell you why I sometimes don’t set goals: cause I feel so overwhelmed. Sometimes when I read a book or talk with inspiring people I think: I really have to set more goals for myself. I know that goal setting helps me a lot and that I can achieve a lot when I focus my energy!
But sometimes I get frustrated, because I am a person that goes from 0 to 100%. Either I do nothing or I do everything at once =)
My trap is: I have so many ideas what I want to do and then I start setting too many goals. And then I realize it doesn’t work and I get frustrated.
I learned in the past years: it’s better to have just a few goals but really focus on them. I have to start small and then gradually build up. That is the secret!

I want to encourage you to start SMALL. Just start with ONE small “warm up” goal and follow through from beginning to end – try to reach your goal in a few weeks or months. When you reached your firsts goal then you can start to pursue one or two larger goals.

With time you will be able to pursue one or two large goals in every important area of your life without feeling overwhelmed.
It is like my exercise. I started slowly with the Pilates gymnastics. Many years ago I started it when I was on vacation. The first time I did it I couldn’t do all the exercises on the DVD. But slowly I got better and better and after a while it was quite easy.
This is like goal setting. You cannot go from 0 to 100 right away. It takes time!

??? What is ONE goal you want to reach in the next weeks, months ???

 

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Why is goal setting important (Part IV)

  • Goals can provide motivation and persistance

Do you know how many times Thomas Edison failed before he finally found a way to make the light bulb work? Over a thousand times!

It’s normal that you will struggle and fail many times before you finally reach your goal.

But what gives you the energy of wanting to reach your goal – even when there are many obstacles? It’s the WHY!
The question is: where does your motivation come from? WHY do you want to reach this goal?

Why do some people reach their goal, even when they have to struggle and try many things to get there? Because their WHY is big enough to find a way to reach that goal.

Why do on the other hand some people don’t reach their goal? Because their WHY is not big enough or they lose sight of their WHY.

If you want to achieve something high, struggle and failure often comes along with it. But if your WHY is big enough, you are able to motivate yourself and work continually towards the goal you want to achieve.

??? Ask yourself ???

What is my desire? What is my purpose? WHY do I want to accomplish this?

Last week my goal was to climb a mountain. WHY was this my goal? Because I wanted to take pictures from the top and it was my only chance to take this picture here in Australia before going back to Germany. I really wanted to reach the top of this particular mountain.
Do you think I struggled? Oh yes, I did! But I knew: if I go further and further I will finally reach the top – this prospect kept me going. If I wouldn’t have known, where I am going, what would have expected me, if I wouldn’t have known that there was a top of the mountain, I would have never had the energy, the desire and the persistence to go to the top. My goal really kept me going. I did motivate myself with singing, listening to a song, taking pictures while walking… so I kept walking continuously towards my goal: the top of the mountain.

I struggled a lot, I was sweating, I was weak (cause I got up 5 o’clock in the morning to take pictures of the sunrise at the beach), I had to carry my camera, my thick jacket……. I could have had many excuses NOT to go to the top, but it was my goal, I REALLY wanted to go and I walked slowly but continuosly (with a few little stops in between).

And FINALLY: I reached the top. What a view! You see it in the picture above.
I was so happy that I made it. What a feeling. I reached my goal! Nobody can take this away from you. This is awesome, when you push yourself to the limit, when you persist, when you motivate yourself by thinking WHY you are doing this and: finally you reach what you wanted: the top!

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Why is goal setting important (Part II)

Another reason for goal setting is:

  • it helps you to focus

Yesterday I took a nice photo of lions. I focused on them – I did not focus on the grass and not on the trees.  I could have focused on so many other things, but I chose to focus on the lions.

I tell you what sometimes my problem is in my daily life: I focus on to many things.  And then I get so overwhelmed or even sidetracked that  I don’t get anything done or very little. But when I focus, then I put all my energy, my time, my effort in one thing and I am much more effective.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the everyday life, because there are so many stimulus in our environment (magazines, TV, Internet, games, work…).

When I lived in Uruguay for a period of time I had an amazing experience: I focused on the most important things. There was not much distraction. For the first three months I had a bed in my small room and a chair – I lived out of my suitcase cause there was no wardrobe. After three months I got a nice wardrobe and a commode (chest of drawers), and a little mirror. When I came home from work there was basically no distraction: I cooked something (with my one fork, one knife, one spoon) and after this I read something or I had a chat with the beautiful elderly lady I lived with or I went to see my neighbour friends to spend time with them.

Now I still have a very small room, but the difference is: I live in Germany and I have a lot of STUFF! I could never imagine how much stuff fits in one small room! Amazing!

Sometimes I remember the times in Uruguay when I had just one bed, one chair and a wardrobe in my room. It felt like there was no “baggage”, it felt so “light”, so refreshing, so “clear”. I don’t know if you can imagine how it felt!? Maybe you had a similar experience?

If you don’t have a specific goal, your effort is not channeled properly.

If you have no goal, you have no focus. Without the focus you end up doing a lot of “nice things” but you don’t reach what you really want.

Why do some people achieve outstanding results? Because they have learned to focus and concentrate their energy, their time, their resources on a single objective – even if it is just a few hours a day/ week/ month.

Question for you:

??? What is your focus???

I would love to hear your story, your experiences.

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