Emotional ability

Do you sometimtes honestly express to others how you feel? How do they react? Are they understanding or do they say: „Oh, it’s not that bad’, „Oh, I experienced much harder things“, „Oh, don’t be like this“, „Oh, why do you cry“? „Lean into your own discomfort and take a moment to acknowledge, not stifleContinue reading “Emotional ability”

To understand each other (Part 5)

Paul Tournier writes in his book that in order to achieve understanding we need to accept our natural differences. He says that „instinctively, a very rational man is going to marry a very sentimental woman. Their complementing one another will, at the beginning, elicit an enthusiastic reaction in him. But later on he will wantContinue reading “To understand each other (Part 5)”

To understand each other (Part 4)

How do we achieve understanding? Paul Tournier writes in his book*: „One who feels understood feels loved, and one who feels loved feels sure of being understood. (…) Deep sharing is overwhelming, and very rare. A thousand fears keep us in check. First of all there is the fear of breaking down, of crying. ThereContinue reading “To understand each other (Part 4)”

To understand each other (Part 3)

Paul Tournier points out that many couples who are married for a few years no longer „really talk to each other.“ And he means REAL talk, not only secondary matters, but „matters that are really essential, intimate, personal. After a few years the „thirst for discovery and for understanding has been dried. The problem isContinue reading “To understand each other (Part 3)”

To understand each other (Part 2)

Here comes the continuation of my summary of the book „To understand each other. Classic wisdom on marriage“, Paul Tournier. I think the author has some interesting and valid points – I think: I am not even married one year, so I am looking forward to read your comments =) I try to excerpt theContinue reading “To understand each other (Part 2)”