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How are you doing so far with reaching your goals in 2015? Have you gone back to your old habits already? Do you think: “Why should I bother….?”

I realized that some people have problems moving forward, because they have bad habits and they don’t overcome these habits.

If you just live your life like you used to, what happens? Some people are very driven, but some people are not, they don’t take “action steps” in their life, they are discouraged and tired and think: what can I do, how can I make things work, how can I change?

It is very important that young people have good role models and that they “accumulate” good habits in their first half of life.

It seems, in fact, as though the second half of a man’s life is made up of nothing but the habits he has accumulated during the first half.”

-Fyodor Dostoevsky

Have you accumulated good habits in your first half of your life? Which are good habits? Which are bad habits? Which habits do you want to keep? Which habits do you want to get rid of? When do you want to get rid of these habits? How do you want to get rid of some habits? Who can help you?

It is a blessing if you grew up in a good family where you saw your parents having good and healthy habits.

It takes a lot of effort to form new habits at a certain age, but its possible! The question is: how determined are you to change bad habits?

Think of one habit which you want to get rid of in 2015. How will you achieve this? What will help you? Who will help you? 

Start today living a healthier life in all areas of your life: family, work, community, self and start accumulating good habits!

??? Tell me one or two good habits that you have??? And if you like – which habit do you want to get rid of???

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Resolutions for 2015? How do you succeed? Why do you fail?

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One of my resolutions this year is to read through the Bible in one year. I do this with an APP (BiOY), where Nicky Gumbel (a Vicar from England) puts readings together from the Old and New Testament and then he writes a very good (in my opinion) explanation about these chapters and how we can apply them in our daily life.

January 1 he wrote: “ I belong to a squash club that is also a gym. Each year on 1 January they bring in extra gym equipment. The place is packed out. By about 7 January, they move out all the extra equipment as most people have given up their New Year’s resolution and the club returns to normal!” *

Today is the 7th January. Have you already given up on your New Year’s resolution? Or don’t you even bother making a resolution, because it never works?

Why do you give up and why does nothing really changes – even if you want it so badly?

Dr. W. Edwards Deming says: “Nothing changes without personal transformation.”

I guess this is the key!

Most people’s tendency is to try and manipulate their environment, e.g. they change jobs, friends, spouses… But the real answer is not the external, but the internal. Personal transformation will lead to a transformation in other areas of your life.

Some people are not intentional in their personal development and that is why they grow very little. The people who focus on personal development grow rapidly, e.g. socially, in their marriage, in character, spiritually, in their physical fitness and health, in service to others…

That’s why I love coaching so much, it focuses on the present and the future. Through the coaching process the client is able to see more clarity. It is like having on glasses, seing a clear picture, whereas before it was very blurry.

Often I find it hard to focus, because I have so many thoughts and ideas in my head and I don’t know sometimes how to bundle them. In our world there are so much “noises” and impressions around us that it is hard to focus on the things that are (most) important to us.

A life coach helps to focus. I experience this with my life coach. Sometimes I think I don’t really have anything to talk about, but after the coaching session I feel encouraged and I have specific action steps to do, which I wouldnt have really focused on one hour by myself. And my coach keeps me accountable which I find very helpful!

A coach focuses on potential, he sees peoples abilities for what they are at this moment and what they can become. People are always changing – but not always developing. To develop means to increase in understanding, skill or character.

Are you intentional in your personal development? How did you develop personally in the last year? How could you develop (more) in 2015?

Do you know people who expanded a lot in their professional life, but not in their personal life? Some people take on a lot of responsibilities in their professional life and learn and grow, but in their personal development they limp.

A lack of holistic development in one area of life can negatively effect other more developed areas of a person’s life, e.g. lack of character development – especially people in their 30’s (or 40’s), when they have a lot of responsibilities in their professional life. Have you seen leaders “crash”, because their personal, spiritual and character foundation couldn’t support their expanded professional responsibilities?

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

As a life coach I ask my clients mainly questions. And through these questions they reflect, think critical, think creative, think in different directions, make decisions.

Have you noticed that when you make a decision out of “yourself” and this decision is not forced unto you – you are most likely to do it? That is how coaching works: it draws out what is in the client – the client has the answer! The coach only helps to draw out what is inside the client already.

The coaching process is focused on discovery. The client discovers with the help of the coach: new self-awareness, insights, ideas, learning, attitudes, facts, realizations…

After this discovery what happens next? If the process would stop here it would have been only a nice conversation with not much change.

Without action there is no change. Now comes the action!

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

Example: if you make a new years resolution that you want to loose weight and you don’t put this into action (e.g. exercising, eating healthy), nothing will change – it only stays a wish, but there will be no change. Also if you don’t explore the “WHY” probably nothing changes or only for a short period of time. Ask yourself: Why do you want to loose weight and what benefits will it have?

Without asking the question why and then taking action steps you will probably fall back into bad habits and you will give up your resolution of loosing weight.

Nothing changes without personal transformation.” (Dr. W. Edwards Deming)

??? What are your thoughts on personal transformation??? How do you put into action what you discovered, what you want to do or what you want to become??? Who helps you with personal transformation??? How do you know that you grow personally (e.g. in character)???

(* BiOY APP, Author: Nicky and Pippa Gumbel)

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What is your plan for 2015? Do you need help for reaching your goals?

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I wish you all a happy and very productive new year 2015. I hope your new year started very good – mine did!

1st of January I sat down and wrote down some of my goals for 2015 and what is important for me to remember each day/ each week.

So far I have been pretty good with my „achievements“ and I hope that I can maintain this positive energy and determination.

I made a creative „collage“ for 2015 (I do this every year since a few years) and I put it on my desk, where I can see it every day: what’s important for me in 2015, what do I want to remember each day! What are my goals?

At the same time I know that achievements are not the most important thing for me in my life. More important for me is what I become!

One quote I put on my collage is: „The most important thing in your life is not what you do – it’s who you become.“ Dallas Willard

This following quote speaks about this as well and I find it very good and challenging:

For everything you want in life, there is a price you must pay, in full and in advance. Decide what you really want and then determine the price you’ll have to pay to achieve it. Remember, to achieve something you’ve never achieved before – you must do something you have never done before. You must become someone who you have never been before. Whatever you want you’ll have to pay a price measured in terms of: sacrifice, time, effort and personal discipline. Decide what it is and start paying that price today.“ Brian Tracy

How can you reach your goals in 2015? By yourself or with the help of someone?

I am happy that I have help and encouragement in reaching my goals: a life coach.

I am a trained life coach but I also have my „own“ life coach who draws out the best in me and who helps me to reach my goals. My coach comes from Europe and it is a great thing that we can do our coaching sessions on skype. Some people think it’s weird on skype, but when they try it out some like it even better than in person =)

I am very happy that I am a life coach (this was my dream and goal for many many years and since a few years I coach people in different continents) and that I am able to help and inspire people to maximize their personal and professional potential.

The year 2014 was very encouraging for me and my clients. They gave me feedback that I helped them see „more clearly“ and that they never would have been there where they are now without the coaching (personal and professional).

I really love being a life coach and my passion is:

– to see people become that which they were meant to be, by encouraging them to use their unique gifts, act on their strengths, and discover the courage to facilitate their journey of personal growth.

How did you experience the last year? Did you reach your goals which you set in the beginning of 2014? If yes: great! Congratulations! If not: what do you think – why didn’t you reach them? What help would have been needed for you?

Are you determined to reach your goals in 2015?

How do you approach it?

Who can help you?

I am happy to coach you (in person or on skype) and help you realize and achieve your goals and dreams.

If you (or your friends) are interested Email me: colouryourdream@web.de

Wishing you a wonderful, blessed and worthwile year 2015 and that you “become someone that you have never been before.“

… to achieve something you’ve never achieved before – you must do something you have never done before. You must become someone who you have never been before. -Brian Tracy

??? What do you want to achieve this year? What did you never do before???

What kind of person do you have (want) to become??? What price do you have to pay???

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One life to live

Last week I finished reading an e-book about people at the end of their lives: what they wanted to say before they die and what was important for them – also some things what they maybe never expressed to other people before.

Honestly – it was one of the most depressing book I have ever read. Almost all people in the book, who wrote their last words down didn’t believe in God and they did not believe that there will be a life after death.They thought, when they die, that’s it!

The book was „easy“ to read, but because it was so sad what I read, I could only read a few pages each day. It made me so sad!

Some people said, what they regret and what they would have done differently and some people where ok with the lives they lived and didn’t expect anything after death.

I think a lot about my life and about the purpose of life. When I was about 28 years, I wrote down in some sentences, what I would like that people say about me when I am not here on earth anymore. Or better: what would I like that people say about me on my 60th birthday.

When you write down these sentences it really shows: what is the most important for you here on earth? What do you want to be known for? What is your purpose in life?

A few years ago I read this sentence, what I wrote down when I was 28, every day – I did this for a few years. I want to start it again in 2014: because it puts right in front of your eyes: what is important for me today? What is the bigger picture here? What is important in my life? Then I don’t get caught up so much in the daily „sorrows“ and „problems“ or superficial things, but have the bigger picture in mind.

Yesterday I went to a contemporary gospel concert in Vienna and they where singing

songs that reminded me so much of my childhood and teenage years and the songs really touched my heart.

They where singing for example one song that I always loved so much: it is from Andrae Crouch: My tribute (To God be the glory).

This is also my desire: to honor God in all I do! To God be the glory!

 

The song expresses what I feel and what my desire is:

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NiB4SEgOkow

This song brings tears to my eyes, because I think of what Jesus Christ did for me on the cross and that he died for me in order that I might live!

I am very thankful that my parents lived a life that showed me for who it is worth living for: God – the Lord of my life!

I have one life to live and I think constantly: how can I live my life best for the glory of God! What is my calling?

What is your desire for your life? Do you know what your calling is?

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How did my dreams come true (Part 2)

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In my last post I told you that I had many dreams and still have.

After my 13 years of school I spent one year at a bible school working practically (laundry and music team) – see my last post (Part 1). This year I didn’t earn anything, it was voluntary work. It was one of my best years ever!

During this time I looked into the program of becoming a teacher. When I read all these information, what it involves to become a teacher I got discouraged and thought: how in the world am I able to do all this? But then I thought about it and prayed about it and I decided: I am going to try! I guess every change and every start somewhere is not easy! Because you have to leave friends, you have to start in a new city, get familiar….

So I started to study to become a qualified primary and secondary school teacher (until grade 10).

I put a lot of effort in my studies and I used to be out of the house the whole day, often from 6 am (to catch a train) to 8pm or 10pm.  I studied 4 years: applied Science at Primary Level, Religious Education, Educational Science and Educational Psychology. After this I had to write a thesis and did written and oral examinations in the mentioned subjects.

I really enjoyed Psychology and was very interested in it. After my studies I thought: I wish I could study councelling/coaching. But I had to be patient until this dream finally came true last year (17 years after I started “dreaming” about it!  In this I really needed to learn how to be patient, but then finally last year it was the “right timing” (when I got my certificate in coaching).

In order to become a fully qualified primary and secondary school teacher I had to undergo an extensive training period of 18 month, compromising theoretical and practical educational as well as methodical training.  This 1,5 years was the toughest years I ever had. I really came to my limit!

I was busy from early morning till very late at night and also usually the weekends. In Germany they say, when you have this training of 18 month: forget your friends – you don’t have time for ANYTHING, accept your training. And it’s true. It was a very tough time, but also a good time. I was teaching in 1,2,3 and 4th grade, as well as 5.,6.,7.,8. grade. I remember when I first came in the school, the older students thought that I was a new student =) That was quite funny! One day I had to go through the classroom of the 8th grade and one guy shouted something at me. Then his colleague said to him: Hey, she is a teacher. He got so embarrassed!

I have many nice and funny memories of this time! But also there were times when I thought: I can’t anymore, I have NO strength anymore. So there were also a lot of tears involved, a lot of stress.

But when I think back on it: it was so worthwile to follow this dream to become a teacher!

I guess you also experienced it: when you follow your dream you have to give up many other things, you really need to focus on your goal and say “goodbye” to many other things you would like to do as well. It is a lot of work, it costs a lot of energy, strength, nerves, time….. BUT: in the end it is so rewarding! When you reached your goal you are so happy and nobody can take this away from you!

I am very, very thankful that my family helped me a lot in my studies. Especially my oldest sister: she spent many, many hours helping me and supporting me. I will never forget when I had my exam lesson in the 7th grade. Topic: Monastery.

The whole family was involved in helping me get all the things ready, because I had only a certain amount of time to prepare before this exam in the classroom. I worked basically day and night and my dad handcrafted two beautiful monasteries for the students, because I did a lesson where the students hands, head and heart where involved.

In my other exam lesson my dad went into the forest and collected things from the forest, because the topic was a biological one (for the younger kids).

Right the night before my exam in the classroom my computer crashed and my work from a few hours was gone. So I just made it until the morning and my dad photocopied at  2 or 3 am  am my written lesson preparations (I had to explain every little step – why I do this instead of doing something else,  I slept for 2-3 hours and went to school for the exam: one lesson in maths grade 1 and one lesson in science in grade 3.

After these exam lessons I was so relieved – with GOD’s help I finished it! I was so thankful, because these exams really showed me: I could have never done it out of my own strength. God really helped me through, because there were so many obstacles along the way (would take too long to explain it here).

Dreams can come true: with God’s help, with your effort and with the help of others!

??? How did one of your dreams came true??? It would be nice if you share some experiences!

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Do what you can

 

This foto shows it: I like books – especially about personality. The ones you see in this foto are not the ones I usually read =) This foto was taken at the world exhibition EXPO 2010 in Shanghai. It was great to be there, cause it reminded me of my time 10 years ago at the EXPO in Germany where I worked in my summer break for around 4 weeks. It was a GREAT experience!

And I remember: I was introduced to the world of INTERNET and EMAIL. Wow – what a different world! And now 10 years later it’s so normal to have internet. Unbelievable!

Since about one year I only buy E-Books, cause I can take them everywhere and I don’t have to decide which book to take: cause all books are constantly in my travel luggage: around 17! I got so fed up of carrying all my heavy books around the world that I started to buy E-books. And I love it!
But the problem is, that I try to read around 5-6 books at once. So it takes a while to finish them =)

And when friends recommend books to me I am interested in, I can’t resist bying them.

So lately I bought the E-book: The “Do what you can” plan by Holly Gerth. I want to summarize a bit what I read so far (of course I haven’t finished it yet, cause I am reading many books at once =).

Already in the introduction its says, why this book is for me:
“If you’ve ever made a goal or resolution and not kep it, this is for you.
If you’ve ever said “When things get back to normal, then I’ll… this is for you.
If you’ve ever felt too tired to do what you know you really need to do, this is for you.

Our culture tells us that we have to “Go big or go home.” But research on change reveals a very different story: it’s the small things that make the greatest difference over time.”

I am a perfectionist – as I told you in another post already. And I have a bit the mentality: Go big or go home. So sometimes I think – if I can’t do it all at once, I don’t do it. And then I loose my motivation cause I have unrealistic goals.
As I am writing this post I am thinking of a special person who will smile when reading this =) and maybe thinks: I told her many times……….
Some people are very constant and they achieve a lot! They do small steps but these small steps constantly. I really admire persons like this. Cause I am not the type of person. My personality is either big or nothing. But that’s not good.
I started to be a bit different and to try to be a bit more consistent – sometimes it works, sometimes not. But I am working on that.

Same with my post. My goal was to write 2 posts a week, but that was a way to high goal for me: unrealistic. And a while I didn’t write any post on this blog and got frustrated cause I didn’t reach my goal – so instead of writing once a week I stopped for a while.

So a realistic goal for me is probably 2 posts a month.

As I was reading in this book I just mentioned, it describes my person further:

“I want to achieve great things. I want to do it all or none at all (…)
It’s time to shrink the change you have in mind down to a more manageable size (…).
Decide on the minimum you’d like to accomplish in a particular area of your life (…). Then divide that by about half (…)
A small goal that actually happens and can grow is better than the grandest one that remains a fantasy (…)
Don’t let unrealistic expectations or idealistic ambitions hold you back any longer.”

Oh boy: that is so ME!

I would love to hear your experiences……… Maybe you are very different, maybe you have a good advice, maybe you have the same struggles!? I would love to hear from you.

You can post a comment on this blog or write me an Email: coach.tabea@web.de
Thanks for sharing your experiences!

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What is your purpose in life?

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I love tulips! When I look at this picture I see many beautiful white tulips – but every tulip is different. They may have the same colour on this picture – but no the exact same shape, height…

God created everyone of us different. And for a special purpose.

The question is: What is MY purpose in life?
How would you answer this question?
Since a very long time I am asking myself this question: What is my purpose in life? What does God want me to do in life?

I don’t just want to live my life somehow – I want to live it to the fullest and I want to fulfill the purpose God designed for me.

My favorite App at the moment is from Rick Warren: Purpose driven life. I could mark everything I read. Here are some quotes that I really like:

“It is impossible to do everything people want you to do. You have just enough time to do God’s will. If you can’t get it all done, it means you are trying to do more than God intended for you to do (or, possibly, that you are watching too much television).

Knowing your purpose focuses your life. It concentrates your effort and energy on what’s important. You become effective by being selective.

Without a clear purpose, you will keep changing directions, jobs, relationships or other externals – hoping each change will settle the confusion or fill the emptiness in your heart.

If you want your life to have impact, focus it!

Never confuse activity with productivity. You can be busy without a purpose, but what’s the point?

Knowing your purpose prepares you for eternity. What ultimately matters most will not be what others say about your life but what God says.

Question to consider: What would my family and friends say is the driving force of my life? What do I want it to be?”

God gave me many gifts and he wants me to use them. Since a very long time it was my dream to become a life coach. I never gave up on this dream. Finally last year this dream came true and I coached already a few people. This is what really gives me joy! To help people reaching their goals and live out their purpose in life

Right now I am actually looking for more people who want to be coached by me. People who want to reach their goals and just need somebody who helps them to move forward.

Are you looking for a change next year? Or you don’t know how to reach your goals? Or you are feeling overwhelmed and are unable to move forward? Or do you need a christmas present for someone?

It doesn’t matter where you live – I coach people from different parts of the world on skype!
If you are interested you can contact me: coach.tabea@web.de

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Quotes from the App: The Purpose driven life – what on earth am I here for, Rick Warren

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