Do you sometimtes honestly express to others how you feel? How do they react? Are they understanding or do they say: „Oh, it's not that bad', „Oh, I experienced much harder things“, „Oh, don't be like this“, „Oh, why do you cry“? „Lean into your own discomfort and take a moment to acknowledge, not stifle …
Are you interested in others?
Do you know people well? Are you open with your friends, aquaintances and family? Do you understand them? Do you know why they do the things they do? Are you interested in them? How do you show that you are interested in them? How do you find out if you understand them? I …
To understand each other (Part 5)
Paul Tournier writes in his book that in order to achieve understanding we need to accept our natural differences. He says that „instinctively, a very rational man is going to marry a very sentimental woman. Their complementing one another will, at the beginning, elicit an enthusiastic reaction in him. But later on he will want …
Emotional intelligence – how do you talk to others?
For some people this comes more easy than for others, but we all can learn how to be better in this regard: „To be socially aware, you must be socially present and remove distractions- especially the ones inside your head. To clear away the clutter, don't interrupt the other person, squelch the voice that is …
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To understand each other (Part 4)
How do we achieve understanding? Paul Tournier writes in his book*: „One who feels understood feels loved, and one who feels loved feels sure of being understood. (…) Deep sharing is overwhelming, and very rare. A thousand fears keep us in check. First of all there is the fear of breaking down, of crying. There …
To understand each other (Part 3)
Paul Tournier points out that many couples who are married for a few years no longer „really talk to each other.“ And he means REAL talk, not only secondary matters, but „matters that are really essential, intimate, personal. After a few years the „thirst for discovery and for understanding has been dried. The problem is …
To understand each other (Part 2)
Here comes the continuation of my summary of the book „To understand each other. Classic wisdom on marriage“, Paul Tournier. I think the author has some interesting and valid points - I think: I am not even married one year, so I am looking forward to read your comments =) I try to excerpt the …
Understanding each other (Part 1)
Lately I read a little book about marriage. I saw so many different couples in my life and thought a lot about this topic. It is so sad, that so many marriages fail and the question is why? I thank God that I grew up in a very stable family environment, with loving parents and …
Understanding each other
Did you ever experienced that you said something and the other person thought she/he understood what you were saying - I mean REALLY understood what you meant? I think communication and really understanding what the other person is saying, is not that easy. It can be the communication in a relationship, with a friend, with …
Why arguments hurt
Here comes the continuation of my post: Handling differences and dissagreements. It is about why and how an argument hurts. I found it quite interesting to read it, because I thought already a long time ago before I read this: it is often not the content (what is said) why we get hurt, but because …
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