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Resolutions for 2015? How do you succeed? Why do you fail?

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One of my resolutions this year is to read through the Bible in one year. I do this with an APP (BiOY), where Nicky Gumbel (a Vicar from England) puts readings together from the Old and New Testament and then he writes a very good (in my opinion) explanation about these chapters and how we can apply them in our daily life.

January 1 he wrote: “ I belong to a squash club that is also a gym. Each year on 1 January they bring in extra gym equipment. The place is packed out. By about 7 January, they move out all the extra equipment as most people have given up their New Year’s resolution and the club returns to normal!” *

Today is the 7th January. Have you already given up on your New Year’s resolution? Or don’t you even bother making a resolution, because it never works?

Why do you give up and why does nothing really changes – even if you want it so badly?

Dr. W. Edwards Deming says: “Nothing changes without personal transformation.”

I guess this is the key!

Most people’s tendency is to try and manipulate their environment, e.g. they change jobs, friends, spouses… But the real answer is not the external, but the internal. Personal transformation will lead to a transformation in other areas of your life.

Some people are not intentional in their personal development and that is why they grow very little. The people who focus on personal development grow rapidly, e.g. socially, in their marriage, in character, spiritually, in their physical fitness and health, in service to others…

That’s why I love coaching so much, it focuses on the present and the future. Through the coaching process the client is able to see more clarity. It is like having on glasses, seing a clear picture, whereas before it was very blurry.

Often I find it hard to focus, because I have so many thoughts and ideas in my head and I don’t know sometimes how to bundle them. In our world there are so much “noises” and impressions around us that it is hard to focus on the things that are (most) important to us.

A life coach helps to focus. I experience this with my life coach. Sometimes I think I don’t really have anything to talk about, but after the coaching session I feel encouraged and I have specific action steps to do, which I wouldnt have really focused on one hour by myself. And my coach keeps me accountable which I find very helpful!

A coach focuses on potential, he sees peoples abilities for what they are at this moment and what they can become. People are always changing – but not always developing. To develop means to increase in understanding, skill or character.

Are you intentional in your personal development? How did you develop personally in the last year? How could you develop (more) in 2015?

Do you know people who expanded a lot in their professional life, but not in their personal life? Some people take on a lot of responsibilities in their professional life and learn and grow, but in their personal development they limp.

A lack of holistic development in one area of life can negatively effect other more developed areas of a person’s life, e.g. lack of character development – especially people in their 30’s (or 40’s), when they have a lot of responsibilities in their professional life. Have you seen leaders “crash”, because their personal, spiritual and character foundation couldn’t support their expanded professional responsibilities?

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

As a life coach I ask my clients mainly questions. And through these questions they reflect, think critical, think creative, think in different directions, make decisions.

Have you noticed that when you make a decision out of “yourself” and this decision is not forced unto you – you are most likely to do it? That is how coaching works: it draws out what is in the client – the client has the answer! The coach only helps to draw out what is inside the client already.

The coaching process is focused on discovery. The client discovers with the help of the coach: new self-awareness, insights, ideas, learning, attitudes, facts, realizations…

After this discovery what happens next? If the process would stop here it would have been only a nice conversation with not much change.

Without action there is no change. Now comes the action!

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

Example: if you make a new years resolution that you want to loose weight and you don’t put this into action (e.g. exercising, eating healthy), nothing will change – it only stays a wish, but there will be no change. Also if you don’t explore the “WHY” probably nothing changes or only for a short period of time. Ask yourself: Why do you want to loose weight and what benefits will it have?

Without asking the question why and then taking action steps you will probably fall back into bad habits and you will give up your resolution of loosing weight.

Nothing changes without personal transformation.” (Dr. W. Edwards Deming)

??? What are your thoughts on personal transformation??? How do you put into action what you discovered, what you want to do or what you want to become??? Who helps you with personal transformation??? How do you know that you grow personally (e.g. in character)???

(* BiOY APP, Author: Nicky and Pippa Gumbel)

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Passion

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“Working hard for something

we don’t care about is called

stress;

working hard for something

we love

is called

passion.”

-Simon Sinek-

 

??? What is your passion? What do you love doing? What motivates you? What stresses you out?

       For what do you work hard???

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Take a break

 

How do you know that you need a break? Have a look at this foto: What comes to your mind?

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When I was studying many years ago and working as a teacher, I felt the stress very often – I would even say almost constantly. There was a lot of pressure to get things done and to be always prepared. When I look back, I think: How in the world did I manage all this workload? Yes, it’s true: when you don’t pay attention to your body and the stress “signs” and when you don’t recharge the “battery” early enough, than it will cause damage in some way.

“The human mind and body tell you through emotional and physiological reactions when it’s time to slow down and take a break. Watch for your unique reactions to stress such as fatigue, upset stomach, pounding headaches, canker sores, or your back going out. Take the time to recognize these signals and recharge your emotional battery before your stress causes damage to your system.”

Right now I am taking an online university course in nutrition and disease prevention and it is very interesting to see, that what you eat and put into your body has a great effect on your health. I think many people are sick, because of many reasons: stress, overworking, poor nutrition and many other factors.

The best thing is to have a balanced life! But it is not that easy to realize. Right now I have the privilege to practise a balanced lifestyle: enough sleep, exercise, walking, healthy cooking, spending time with friends (in real life or on skype), exercising my mind (online studies)… This is great!

The last 6,5 years I worked as a flight attendant and I realize now even more how stressful this was in general. There was no routine – every month, every week, every day looked different. Yes, it was very exciting at times, but after a while my body was really tired.

Even I as an extrovert became more introverted in my free time, because in my work environment I was constantly surrounded by hundreds of people. Also on each flight: different colleagues, different bosses, different passengers, different destination. After a while this was quite tiring.

I am very thankful that I can live a more steady life at the moment, which is probably more healthy than my lifestyle before

??? When do you know that it is time to take a break? How and when do you feel stressed?

??? How do you take “time out”? How do you live a healthy lifestyle???

Looking forward to hearing from you!

 

(Quote from the book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #15)

 

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Core values

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As you run around struggling to check your daily „to dos“ off your list, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s really important –your core values. Take the time to check in with yourself. Take a sheet of paper and list your values and then ask yourself if you’ve done or said anything recently that you aren’t proud of. Before long you’ll find yourself thinking of the list before you act.“

??? Do you have any experiences with “To do lists” and your core values???

(Book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #11)

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Merry Christmas!

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“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”

William Arthur Ward

The three wise men brought presents to the king of kings: Jesus Christ. They expressed their gratitude. How do we express our gratitude on Christmas? Jesus Christ is the real present to the world. How do we express our gratitude to him today on his birthday? What do we give to HIM?

I wish you all a “Merry Christmas” with the christmas song: The reason why: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpRPjriOogc

– How do you express gratitude on Christmas? –

 

 

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One life to live

Last week I finished reading an e-book about people at the end of their lives: what they wanted to say before they die and what was important for them – also some things what they maybe never expressed to other people before.

Honestly – it was one of the most depressing book I have ever read. Almost all people in the book, who wrote their last words down didn’t believe in God and they did not believe that there will be a life after death.They thought, when they die, that’s it!

The book was „easy“ to read, but because it was so sad what I read, I could only read a few pages each day. It made me so sad!

Some people said, what they regret and what they would have done differently and some people where ok with the lives they lived and didn’t expect anything after death.

I think a lot about my life and about the purpose of life. When I was about 28 years, I wrote down in some sentences, what I would like that people say about me when I am not here on earth anymore. Or better: what would I like that people say about me on my 60th birthday.

When you write down these sentences it really shows: what is the most important for you here on earth? What do you want to be known for? What is your purpose in life?

A few years ago I read this sentence, what I wrote down when I was 28, every day – I did this for a few years. I want to start it again in 2014: because it puts right in front of your eyes: what is important for me today? What is the bigger picture here? What is important in my life? Then I don’t get caught up so much in the daily „sorrows“ and „problems“ or superficial things, but have the bigger picture in mind.

Yesterday I went to a contemporary gospel concert in Vienna and they where singing

songs that reminded me so much of my childhood and teenage years and the songs really touched my heart.

They where singing for example one song that I always loved so much: it is from Andrae Crouch: My tribute (To God be the glory).

This is also my desire: to honor God in all I do! To God be the glory!

 

The song expresses what I feel and what my desire is:

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NiB4SEgOkow

This song brings tears to my eyes, because I think of what Jesus Christ did for me on the cross and that he died for me in order that I might live!

I am very thankful that my parents lived a life that showed me for who it is worth living for: God – the Lord of my life!

I have one life to live and I think constantly: how can I live my life best for the glory of God! What is my calling?

What is your desire for your life? Do you know what your calling is?

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The Law of The Garbage Truck

I think it is a fantastic article – worth posting it and reading it!
Ask yourself the question after you read the article: are you a garbage truck?

Morning Story and Dilbert

How often do you let other people’s nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day? Unless you’re the Terminator, for an instant you’re probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly she can get back her focus on what’s important.

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here’s what happened. I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car’s back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who…

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