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Wait – before you take a decision

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A few weeks ago my lovely husband invited me for a beautiful breakfast to one of our favorite places. We enjoyed especially the

wonderful nature God created. We were just about to leave, when we saw this gorgeous creature – sitting there….. waiting. It looked

almost like it was smiling =) can you see it?

I am definitely not the most patient person in the world. And sometimes if a situation appears, I want to take a decision right away.

But then I realize: Oops, maybe I should have waited a few days and then take the decision. Of course it depends on

the situation and the consequences this decision might have.

I learned, that in important decisions it is better to wait, before I move forward and the next day the situation might look already a

bit clearer.

When I read this quote a few days ago, I thought: This explains it really well, what I experienced.

“Sometimes situations can feel so uncomfortable and rife with anxiety that we jump to action just to get the turmoil to go away. 

Instead, giving yourself that extra day, week, or month to digest the situation before moving forward is all you need to stay in control.

So sleep on it. Sometimes, while you’re waiting, things may surface that make your decision that much easier.”

( Book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy # 20)

 

??? What do you think of this quote? Have you experienced the same? How do you take decisions? Do you jump right into action? And why???

 

 

 

 

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Easter

Der Herr ist auferstanden – Er ist wahrhaftig auferstanden! (German)

Christ has risen! Truly he has risen! (English)

What are the words above in your language? Would be lovely if you could post them under this post!

 

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I baked this Easter lamb for the first time for Easter. My family sent me the baking dish lately for my birthday – timely for Easter.

This baked cake in the form of a lamb is a German tradtion. Jesus Christ is the „Lamb of God“ who died for our sins, so that we might

live. The lamb symbolizes gentleness of character, and the patience under suffering. The Lamb is a symbol of Jesus Christ, and

signifies purity, meekness, and sacrifice.

In the bible in John 1:29 we can read: “The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him and said, „Behold! The Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world.“

 

You probably know the famous song: Hallelujah!

A friend sent this link to me – not with the original words, but with the Easter story! My friend recommended:

Put your earphones on, close your eyes and listen to this song.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=guhr0Vh2hE0

I listened to it already many times and it touches my heart.

I wonder what you think of Easter and what it means to you?

 

??? What are these words in your native language???: Christ has risen! Truly he has risten!

And I would love to hear what Easter means to you???

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Emotion versus Reason

Sometimes I am quite emotional and for me it is good to talk with people, who are not so emotional. But sometimes I find it irritating, when people don’t show emotions. It is good to have a healthy balance. I learn in some situations, not be be too emotional. I find this following quote helpful – both go together (emotions and reasons).  It’s not only emotion OR reason – both are important to pay attention to.

“For that next sticky situation that gives you grief, create an Emotion vs. Reason list. Grab a sheet of paper and give yourself a few quiet moments to list on the left what your emotions are telling you to do, and list on the right what your reason is telling you to do. Now consider where your emotions are clouding your judgment and where your reason ignores important emotional cues.”

(Quote: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #17)

 

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??? What is your experience with your emotions? Are you more the emotional type or more the reasoning            type???

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Take a break

 

How do you know that you need a break? Have a look at this foto: What comes to your mind?

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When I was studying many years ago and working as a teacher, I felt the stress very often – I would even say almost constantly. There was a lot of pressure to get things done and to be always prepared. When I look back, I think: How in the world did I manage all this workload? Yes, it’s true: when you don’t pay attention to your body and the stress “signs” and when you don’t recharge the “battery” early enough, than it will cause damage in some way.

“The human mind and body tell you through emotional and physiological reactions when it’s time to slow down and take a break. Watch for your unique reactions to stress such as fatigue, upset stomach, pounding headaches, canker sores, or your back going out. Take the time to recognize these signals and recharge your emotional battery before your stress causes damage to your system.”

Right now I am taking an online university course in nutrition and disease prevention and it is very interesting to see, that what you eat and put into your body has a great effect on your health. I think many people are sick, because of many reasons: stress, overworking, poor nutrition and many other factors.

The best thing is to have a balanced life! But it is not that easy to realize. Right now I have the privilege to practise a balanced lifestyle: enough sleep, exercise, walking, healthy cooking, spending time with friends (in real life or on skype), exercising my mind (online studies)… This is great!

The last 6,5 years I worked as a flight attendant and I realize now even more how stressful this was in general. There was no routine – every month, every week, every day looked different. Yes, it was very exciting at times, but after a while my body was really tired.

Even I as an extrovert became more introverted in my free time, because in my work environment I was constantly surrounded by hundreds of people. Also on each flight: different colleagues, different bosses, different passengers, different destination. After a while this was quite tiring.

I am very thankful that I can live a more steady life at the moment, which is probably more healthy than my lifestyle before

??? When do you know that it is time to take a break? How and when do you feel stressed?

??? How do you take “time out”? How do you live a healthy lifestyle???

Looking forward to hearing from you!

 

(Quote from the book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #15)

 

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Understanding each other

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Did you ever experienced that you said something and the other person thought she/he understood what you were saying – I mean REALLY understood what you meant?

I think communication and really understanding what the other person is saying, is not that easy. It can be the communication in a relationship, with a friend, with parents, with kids, with colleagues. It’s always good to ask the other person: Is it this what you meant? Did I understand you right? What do you mean by this…?

I read a good quote what is worth thinking of:

“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.”

-Robert McCloskey-

???How do you communicate? Do people understand what you say? What do you do to make sure that you understood the other person???

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Handling differences and disagreements

A long time ago I heard from a book: Men are from Mars, women are from Venus (John Gray).

I never read this book, even if it was very popular at this time. But the last 6 years I lived in a house with 3 other people and one of them had this book, so I started to read it and was very surprised . It describes men and women in general – and in many described examples I could find myself.

I haven’t finished reading the book yet, but once in a while I read a few pages.

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A few weeks ago I read a bit further where I left off the other day. It was chapter 9: How to avoid arguments.

I don’t know if you ever have arguments in your relationship? If not, you don’t need to read it, if yes it could help you =) – to understand yourself better and also your partner. Reading it can also help your general understanding about men and women.

A challenge in relationships is handling differences and disagreements. Often the couple stops talking in a loving manner and begin:

  • hurting
  • blaming
  • complaining
  • accusing
  • demanding
  • resenting
  • doubting

each other.

Communication is very important in a relationship and „arguments can be the most destructive element.“ The „closer we are to someone, the easier it is to bruise or to be bruised.“

John Gray recommends: never argue! „Instead discuss the pros and cons of something. It is possible to be honest, open and even express negative feelings without arguing or fighting.“

What happens when we argue? When we don’t understand that men and women are different it is easy to get into „arguments that hurt not only our partner but also ourselves.“

 „The secret to avoiding arguments is loving and respectful communication. The differences and disagreements don’t hurt as much as the ways in which we communicate them. Ideally an argument does not have to be hurtful; instead it can simply be an engaging conversation that expresses our differences and disagreements (…). But practically speaking most couples start out arguing about one thing and, within five minutes, are arguing about the way they are arguing.

Unknowingly they begin hurting each other, what could have been an innocent argument, easily resolved with mutual understanding and an acceptance of differences, escalates into a battle. They refuse to accept or understand the content of their partner’s point of view because of the way they are being approached.

Resolving an argument requires extending or stretching our point of view to include and integrate another point of view. To make this stretch we need to feel appreciated and respected. If our partner’s attitude is unloving, our self-esteem can actually be wounded by taking on their point of view.”

??? What is your experience with this topic???

(Kindle e-book: Men are from Mars, women are from Venus, John Gray, Loc 2644-2673)

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Change

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Did you go through a change in the last months or the last year? What kind of change was it? How did you feel?

I had a few changes in the last months. Usually I find that change is good and gives me new opportunities. But at the same time it is also sometimes a bit scary, because of the unknown – but overall it is exciting and opens new doors and new possibilities.

Here is a quote I read a few days ago which I found very helpful and accurate:

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful, it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident, it is inspiring because the challenge now exists to make things better.“

– King Whitney Jr.-

??? Which “type” are you? The fearful, the hopeful or the confident???

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