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How can I find my passion?

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What’s my passion? What do I love doing? What am I good at? How can I find my passion in life?

Think back for a minute when you were a child or teenager. What dreams did you have? What desires did you have, what wishes? Did you want to be a teacher, a doctor, an artist, a nurse, a craftsman, a fireman, a ………..?

Maybe you can’t remember? Then ask someone who grew up with you and knows you well. What did you like doing or what were you good at?

Can you imagine what my dream was when I was a child?

At a young age I was very impressed with the lady at the shop selling different kind of meats and sausages. When my mum went shopping she sometimes bought “Gelbwurst” (a special German cold meat “cut up” which you put on your bread).

I loved standing besides my mum looking at the lady how she cut the meat and how she weighed it and put it into the bag. And most of the time she gave me a little piece of “Gelbwurst” to eat. That was the highlight of the shopping experience and I wanted to become a “Wurstverkäufer” – a lady who sells meat.

When I went to primary school I wanted to become a teacher and when I was a teenager I wanted to become a flight attendant. I also had the dream of doing fulltime youth work.

I surely had many dreams. What do you think…. Which one came true?

I must tell you that the dream of the “Wurstverkäufer” – selling meats, didn’t come true =), but the dream of becoming a teacher, a fulltime youth worker and also a flight attendant. What do they all have in common? Working with people! I am a “people person”: I love to inspire and making a difference in people’s lives. This passion led me to become an international certified life coach with the International Coach Federation (ICF). I inspire women on their journey to move forward in life and career with purpose, helping them find out their true gifts so that they can live out these gifts with authenticity to the fullest capacity in their personal and professional life. This is my passion!

What was your dream as a child? Did some of the dreams come true? If yes, why did they come true? Or if no, why didn’t they come true?

Do you think it’s too late that your dreams can become reality?

I think it’s never too late!!!

You can start NOW pursuing your dream by taking little steps. The most important thing is to start doing something about your dreams. If you need help I can help you on your journey with the first steps! Have a look at http://www.tabeakraska.com 

It is never too late to start something!

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What is most important in life for you?

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What is most important in life for you?

If you would list your 5 most important values – which one would you write down? One of my values is for example: “Making a difference in people’s lives” and in my life coaching profession I ask myself this question: “How can I make a difference in women’s lives?” Often I feel overwhelmed and I don’t think that I can make a huge difference in people’s lives. But I read once that if I relieve the suffering of one person today I am making a difference. That means, I don’t need to think: “How can I help the whole world” – this is too overwhelming, but I can think: “How can I make a person happy today, how can I help someone in some way today?”

What do people suffer from? Of course there are a lot of people suffering from serious things and they require some professional help from a counsellor. But I am not talking about this here. I am now talking more about some “pain” you are facing each day on a “value level” – you are aware that you need some change in a few areas of your life, but you don’t know where to start or how to do it. Or you are not fulfilled in your life, you are not passionate about your job or you don’t know what your purpose in life is – in general and specific for you and your unique gifts.

These are just a few “pain points” you might have. The question is: how do you get help? From whom? How do you move forward in answering these questions? Have you given up answering these questions already or do you have fear facing them or are you afraid of change? What stops you from facing the important questions in life?

Whatever it might be: Take action today! How? You could ask a friend or family member to help you or you could look for a coach who will help you by asking the right questions to bring out in you the answers you already have inside yourself. The most important thing is: take action today. And remember: just take one action step at a time.

??? What action could you take this week to find answers to your questions???

??? What are your 5 core values??? How do you live them out every single day???

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Do you know your strengths?

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Do you know what your strengths are? How can you discover them? You can find a lot of different websites about how to find out what your strengths are – and some are helpful. But: you also know it yourself what you are good at and how specific activities make you feel: do they energize you or drain you?

What is a strength?

I found a good explanation in this book: „Go put your strengths to work, 6 powerful steps to achieve outstanding performance“ Marcus Buckingham.“

Here I am going to summarize from Page 90:

What does a strength look like?

  • It looks like consistent, near-perfect performance

Which three ingredients combine to create a strength?

  • 1. Talents: Because you are so close to your own talents, they are most effectively measured by personality profiles such as the Clifton StrengthsFinder, Myers-Briggs, and the Kolbe Conative Index. Talents are innate.
  • 2. Skills: Skills are learned.
  • 3. Knowledge: Knowledge is learned.

What does one of your strengths actually feel like to you?

  • When you do it, you feel effective – the S of SIGN (if you read further I explain SIGN)
  • Before you do it, you actively look forward to it – the I of SIGN
  • While you are doing it, you feel inquisite and focused – the G of SIGN
  • After you’ve done it, you feel fulfilled and authentic – the N of SIGN.

If you want to identify your own strengths, „pay close attention to how specific activities make you feel. Your feelings reveal your strengths.“ (P.90)

You can look for signs. The book explains four signs of a strength.

I will summarize the four sings of a strengths (Page 76-116).

SIGNs (S= Success, I= Instinct, G= Growth, N= Needs)

You can pick a strength that you think you have, e.g. you are good at presenting a topic to a group of people, you empathize with people, you are good at communicating, etc.

Now rate on a scale from 1-5 if you agree or disagree to following statements (1= strongly disagree, 5= strongly agree)

S (= Sucess)

  1. I have been tremendously successful at this type of activity
  2. Other people often tell me I have a gift for this type of activity
  3. I have been given prizes or recognition for doing this type of activity

I (= Instict)

  1. I do this type of activity every day
  2. I often find myself volunteering for this type of activity
  3. This type of activity is a „gut reaction“ to me

G (= Growth)

  1. I pick up this type of activity quickly
  2. I find myself thinking about this type of acivity every day
  3. I can’t wait to learn new techniques for doing this activity

N (= Needs)

  1. I always look forward to doing this type of activity
  2. It’s fun for me to think back to when I was doing this type of activity
  3. Doing this type of activity is one of my greatest personal satisfactions

Scores:

53 and above: a true strength

46-52: it depends which questions brought down the score. If you rated the first 3 questions low, while the I, G, and N questions got high marks, it is a sign that this is indeed a strength but one that you have yet to apply affectively. Stay focused on this activity, discipline yourself to seek out the necessary skills and knowledge, keep practicing, and quite soon you should see your performance start to get attention.

If your answers to question 4 through twelve pulled down the score, then the chances are that it is not a strength. It lacks the urgency and the extreme positive reactions so characteristic of a strength.

46 and below: it is highly unlikely to be a strength.

??? What is one of your strengths??? What energizes you??? How did you discover that it is your strength? What do your closest friends say what your strengths are???

Book: „Go put your strengths to work, 6 powerful steps to achieve outstanding performance“ Marcus Buckingham.

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Change

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Are you a person who likes change or are you very constant and you don’t like change?

What was a major change in your life lately? Where you fearful or hopeful before the change happened? How did the thought of the change make you feel?

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful, it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident, it is inspiring because the challenge now exists to make things better.” King Whitney Jr.

What’s the next change in your life? How do you approach it? How can you approach it differently this time? What opportunities might the change bring in your life?

??? I am interested to hear about your experiences how you approach change???

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Your emotions effect others

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How does it effect you when others around you are in a bad mood, say bad words or just look bored? I think some people literally “take” the emotions of others on themselves, it effects them a lot how other people behave. Some people seem to not care at all and they live in their own world and for them it’s not a “big deal” how others react and show their emotions.

Have you noticed that you impact others with your behavior?

Emotions are the primary drivers of your behavior. It’s important you understand the effect they have on the people around you. To observe the ripple effects from your emotions, watch the immediate impact in other people’s faces or behavior or ask them how they are affected by your emotions.”

I think very sensitive people “feel” the emotions of other people and it has an effect on them. Watch yourself how the behavior of others effect you and how your behavior effects others.

??? What’s your experience ???

(Quote: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #2)

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If you want to know more about how to find your life purpose, your strengths, your potential, goals, dreams, inner peace and joy, if you want to live a satisfying life and see personal growth, then coaching might be for you. Contact me for a complementary 30 min. coaching session: colouryourdream@web.de

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Habits

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How are you doing so far with reaching your goals in 2015? Have you gone back to your old habits already? Do you think: “Why should I bother….?”

I realized that some people have problems moving forward, because they have bad habits and they don’t overcome these habits.

If you just live your life like you used to, what happens? Some people are very driven, but some people are not, they don’t take “action steps” in their life, they are discouraged and tired and think: what can I do, how can I make things work, how can I change?

It is very important that young people have good role models and that they “accumulate” good habits in their first half of life.

It seems, in fact, as though the second half of a man’s life is made up of nothing but the habits he has accumulated during the first half.”

-Fyodor Dostoevsky

Have you accumulated good habits in your first half of your life? Which are good habits? Which are bad habits? Which habits do you want to keep? Which habits do you want to get rid of? When do you want to get rid of these habits? How do you want to get rid of some habits? Who can help you?

It is a blessing if you grew up in a good family where you saw your parents having good and healthy habits.

It takes a lot of effort to form new habits at a certain age, but its possible! The question is: how determined are you to change bad habits?

Think of one habit which you want to get rid of in 2015. How will you achieve this? What will help you? Who will help you? 

Start today living a healthier life in all areas of your life: family, work, community, self and start accumulating good habits!

??? Tell me one or two good habits that you have??? And if you like – which habit do you want to get rid of???

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Resolutions for 2015? How do you succeed? Why do you fail?

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One of my resolutions this year is to read through the Bible in one year. I do this with an APP (BiOY), where Nicky Gumbel (a Vicar from England) puts readings together from the Old and New Testament and then he writes a very good (in my opinion) explanation about these chapters and how we can apply them in our daily life.

January 1 he wrote: “ I belong to a squash club that is also a gym. Each year on 1 January they bring in extra gym equipment. The place is packed out. By about 7 January, they move out all the extra equipment as most people have given up their New Year’s resolution and the club returns to normal!” *

Today is the 7th January. Have you already given up on your New Year’s resolution? Or don’t you even bother making a resolution, because it never works?

Why do you give up and why does nothing really changes – even if you want it so badly?

Dr. W. Edwards Deming says: “Nothing changes without personal transformation.”

I guess this is the key!

Most people’s tendency is to try and manipulate their environment, e.g. they change jobs, friends, spouses… But the real answer is not the external, but the internal. Personal transformation will lead to a transformation in other areas of your life.

Some people are not intentional in their personal development and that is why they grow very little. The people who focus on personal development grow rapidly, e.g. socially, in their marriage, in character, spiritually, in their physical fitness and health, in service to others…

That’s why I love coaching so much, it focuses on the present and the future. Through the coaching process the client is able to see more clarity. It is like having on glasses, seing a clear picture, whereas before it was very blurry.

Often I find it hard to focus, because I have so many thoughts and ideas in my head and I don’t know sometimes how to bundle them. In our world there are so much “noises” and impressions around us that it is hard to focus on the things that are (most) important to us.

A life coach helps to focus. I experience this with my life coach. Sometimes I think I don’t really have anything to talk about, but after the coaching session I feel encouraged and I have specific action steps to do, which I wouldnt have really focused on one hour by myself. And my coach keeps me accountable which I find very helpful!

A coach focuses on potential, he sees peoples abilities for what they are at this moment and what they can become. People are always changing – but not always developing. To develop means to increase in understanding, skill or character.

Are you intentional in your personal development? How did you develop personally in the last year? How could you develop (more) in 2015?

Do you know people who expanded a lot in their professional life, but not in their personal life? Some people take on a lot of responsibilities in their professional life and learn and grow, but in their personal development they limp.

A lack of holistic development in one area of life can negatively effect other more developed areas of a person’s life, e.g. lack of character development – especially people in their 30’s (or 40’s), when they have a lot of responsibilities in their professional life. Have you seen leaders “crash”, because their personal, spiritual and character foundation couldn’t support their expanded professional responsibilities?

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

As a life coach I ask my clients mainly questions. And through these questions they reflect, think critical, think creative, think in different directions, make decisions.

Have you noticed that when you make a decision out of “yourself” and this decision is not forced unto you – you are most likely to do it? That is how coaching works: it draws out what is in the client – the client has the answer! The coach only helps to draw out what is inside the client already.

The coaching process is focused on discovery. The client discovers with the help of the coach: new self-awareness, insights, ideas, learning, attitudes, facts, realizations…

After this discovery what happens next? If the process would stop here it would have been only a nice conversation with not much change.

Without action there is no change. Now comes the action!

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

Example: if you make a new years resolution that you want to loose weight and you don’t put this into action (e.g. exercising, eating healthy), nothing will change – it only stays a wish, but there will be no change. Also if you don’t explore the “WHY” probably nothing changes or only for a short period of time. Ask yourself: Why do you want to loose weight and what benefits will it have?

Without asking the question why and then taking action steps you will probably fall back into bad habits and you will give up your resolution of loosing weight.

Nothing changes without personal transformation.” (Dr. W. Edwards Deming)

??? What are your thoughts on personal transformation??? How do you put into action what you discovered, what you want to do or what you want to become??? Who helps you with personal transformation??? How do you know that you grow personally (e.g. in character)???

(* BiOY APP, Author: Nicky and Pippa Gumbel)

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If you want to know more about how to find your life purpose, your strengths, your potential, goals, dreams, inner peace and joy if you want to live a satisfying life and see personal growth, then coaching might be for you. You can find more here:

http://spokefire.com/tabea-kraska/

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