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Resolutions for 2015? How do you succeed? Why do you fail?

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One of my resolutions this year is to read through the Bible in one year. I do this with an APP (BiOY), where Nicky Gumbel (a Vicar from England) puts readings together from the Old and New Testament and then he writes a very good (in my opinion) explanation about these chapters and how we can apply them in our daily life.

January 1 he wrote: “ I belong to a squash club that is also a gym. Each year on 1 January they bring in extra gym equipment. The place is packed out. By about 7 January, they move out all the extra equipment as most people have given up their New Year’s resolution and the club returns to normal!” *

Today is the 7th January. Have you already given up on your New Year’s resolution? Or don’t you even bother making a resolution, because it never works?

Why do you give up and why does nothing really changes – even if you want it so badly?

Dr. W. Edwards Deming says: “Nothing changes without personal transformation.”

I guess this is the key!

Most people’s tendency is to try and manipulate their environment, e.g. they change jobs, friends, spouses… But the real answer is not the external, but the internal. Personal transformation will lead to a transformation in other areas of your life.

Some people are not intentional in their personal development and that is why they grow very little. The people who focus on personal development grow rapidly, e.g. socially, in their marriage, in character, spiritually, in their physical fitness and health, in service to others…

That’s why I love coaching so much, it focuses on the present and the future. Through the coaching process the client is able to see more clarity. It is like having on glasses, seing a clear picture, whereas before it was very blurry.

Often I find it hard to focus, because I have so many thoughts and ideas in my head and I don’t know sometimes how to bundle them. In our world there are so much “noises” and impressions around us that it is hard to focus on the things that are (most) important to us.

A life coach helps to focus. I experience this with my life coach. Sometimes I think I don’t really have anything to talk about, but after the coaching session I feel encouraged and I have specific action steps to do, which I wouldnt have really focused on one hour by myself. And my coach keeps me accountable which I find very helpful!

A coach focuses on potential, he sees peoples abilities for what they are at this moment and what they can become. People are always changing – but not always developing. To develop means to increase in understanding, skill or character.

Are you intentional in your personal development? How did you develop personally in the last year? How could you develop (more) in 2015?

Do you know people who expanded a lot in their professional life, but not in their personal life? Some people take on a lot of responsibilities in their professional life and learn and grow, but in their personal development they limp.

A lack of holistic development in one area of life can negatively effect other more developed areas of a person’s life, e.g. lack of character development – especially people in their 30’s (or 40’s), when they have a lot of responsibilities in their professional life. Have you seen leaders “crash”, because their personal, spiritual and character foundation couldn’t support their expanded professional responsibilities?

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

As a life coach I ask my clients mainly questions. And through these questions they reflect, think critical, think creative, think in different directions, make decisions.

Have you noticed that when you make a decision out of “yourself” and this decision is not forced unto you – you are most likely to do it? That is how coaching works: it draws out what is in the client – the client has the answer! The coach only helps to draw out what is inside the client already.

The coaching process is focused on discovery. The client discovers with the help of the coach: new self-awareness, insights, ideas, learning, attitudes, facts, realizations…

After this discovery what happens next? If the process would stop here it would have been only a nice conversation with not much change.

Without action there is no change. Now comes the action!

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

Example: if you make a new years resolution that you want to loose weight and you don’t put this into action (e.g. exercising, eating healthy), nothing will change – it only stays a wish, but there will be no change. Also if you don’t explore the “WHY” probably nothing changes or only for a short period of time. Ask yourself: Why do you want to loose weight and what benefits will it have?

Without asking the question why and then taking action steps you will probably fall back into bad habits and you will give up your resolution of loosing weight.

Nothing changes without personal transformation.” (Dr. W. Edwards Deming)

??? What are your thoughts on personal transformation??? How do you put into action what you discovered, what you want to do or what you want to become??? Who helps you with personal transformation??? How do you know that you grow personally (e.g. in character)???

(* BiOY APP, Author: Nicky and Pippa Gumbel)

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Timing…

 

 

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Lately I am very busy, and I only post very short posts, but in a few months I try to do it more frequently again.

I read a quote lately which is very helpful for me:

“When dealing with people and their emotions, timing really is everything. You don’t ask for a favor when someone is angry or correct someone who feels threatened by you. To practice your timing with others, ask the right questions at the right time with the right frame of mind, all with your audience in mind.” (Strategy #35,in the book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, )

I guess I have to learn a lot finding the right timing when to talk and to be silent when it it not the right timing yet to talk!

It would be interesting to know what you think about this quote and how you deal or dealt with it so far!?

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The most important birthday ever

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Dear blog readers,

thanks a lot for reading my blog and for your encouraging comments!

Wishing you a blessed Christmas!

For me it is very special time of the year – cause the person who I love most has birthday: Jesus Christ!

He is the one who gives my life meaning and fulfillment.

Today many thoughts were crossing my mind:

God is the one who knows the beginning and the end of your life – no one else. And he has everything in his hand. He knows what’s best for us and for others – even if we don’t understand everything.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.
“As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55,8+9).

Yesterday I had my last working day (or let’s say night – cause I worked during the night) in the year 2012.

And I planned to fly for the day to see someone close to me in the hospital.
But Gods thoughts are higher than our ways.

Today I got the sad news that she went already to the place where there will be “no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelations 21,4). For me sad news but for her its the best place to be – and in this way I am also happy!

But we are still living here on this earth and there is a lot of pain and tears involved.

It’s good to know that God “will wipe every tear from their eyes…..”- one day.

Today I listened to a podcast where it was mentioned that every person has 4 questions:

– origin: where do I come from?
– meaning: what gives my life meaning?
– morality: how do I differentiate between good and evil
destiny: what happens to a human being when he/she dies?

Many religions have different answers, but there is one unique answer which I believe in: it’s the uniqueness of Christ’s forgiveness.

In John Chapter 3 its says how the love of Christ is expressed: it’s unconditional love, it’s relational and eternal.

This one person who’s birthday we celebrate in a few days is the redeemer of the world. He came to pay the prize so that you and I can live! How amazing!

There exists many stories of people who lived a life of pleasure, but when they faced the last hours in their life they suddenly realized: their life was so empty, it had no meaning at all.

I was very sad today and I cried a lot because of the loss and also because I couln’t be there on time. But what made me confident was: I know that she just didn’t “know” abstractly that Jesus Christ exists, but that she “knew” Christ in a personal way.

She was convinced that: “neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”(Romans 8,38)

I know that not everybody who reads this post will agree on it. But it was on my heart to write it and because I believe that Jesus Christ is the true way to life and I wanted to share it with you. It’s a free choice what we believe in.

Would love to hear “your story” – your experiences, your hopes, your fears, your dreams, your questions, your belief…..

I wish you a blessed Christmas and hopefully I will see you next year: 2013!

God’s blessing…..

… in English: for my english speaking friends:

The Lord bless you, and keep you:
The Lord make his face shine upon you, and be gracious unto you:
The Lord lift up his countenance upon you, and give you peace.

… in German (Deutsch= my mother tongue):

Der Herr segne dich und behüte dich.
Der Herr lasse sein Angesicht leuchten über dir und sei dir gnädig.
Der Herr erhebe sein Angesicht auf dich und schenke dir Frieden.
…in French:

Que le Seigneur te bénisse et te garde.
Que le Seigneur fasse rayonner sur toi son regard et t’accorde sa grâce.
Que le Seigneur porte sur toi son regard et te donne la paix.

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