How can you resolve conflict in a positive way?

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Do you know any person, who never has a conflict to resolve or a disagreement?

I think conflict and disagreement belong to our lives, but the question is: how do we resolve conflict? Do we resolve it in a negative or positive way?
How can we handle emotionally-charged situations and defuse them before they escalate?
It is common that people have different opinions, expectations and needs. But this is not a bad thing. It is possible to resolve a conflict in a healthy and constructive way.
When you feel threatened or punished by a conflict, this can create negative feelings.
But when a conflict isn’t perceived as “threatening or punishing, it fosters freedom, creativity, and safety in relationships.”
One skill of emotional intelligence is the ability to manage conflicts in a “positive, trust-building way.”
How can you resolve a conflict in a trust-building way?

– Choose your arguments: Think first – is it worth arguing about it or not? If you want to resolve the conflict in a positive way, you need time and energy for your arguments

– Stay focused in the present: don’t hold on to old hurts and resentments. Recognize the reality of the current situation and view it as a “new opportunity for resolving old feelings about conflicts.”

– end conflicts that cannot be resolved: you need two people to “keep an argument going. You can choose to disengage from a conflict, even if you still disagree.”

– Forgive: people have hurt you in the past – but this is the past If you want to resolve conflict, you need to “give up the urge to punish or seek revenge”

??? How do you resolve conflict??? I would be interested in knowing how you deal with conflict and what you experienced with it???

(Quotes from website: www.helpguide.org, Authors: Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., and Melinda Smith, M.A.)
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7 Responses so far »

  1. 1

    Deb said,

    A wonderful post, thank you Tabea

  2. 2

    Heidi Viars said,

    after 25 years of being married, I have learned to say “You could be right” … it often defuses very explosive conversations … and opens a door that first seemed to be shut …

  3. 4

    bernasvibe said,

    *Great topic! I’ve been known to be able to dialogue even with people I’m at odds with. Having said that I can hold my own in a debate though..I think agreeing to disagree is the best way to deal with a conflict..Although depends on the level of maturity of both parties whether it will get there or not. Mutual respect and regard has alot to do with how it will end as well.

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    petit4chocolatier said,

    Love this and the key word of “forgive” is a word of wisdom 🙂


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