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Wait – before you take a decision

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A few weeks ago my lovely husband invited me for a beautiful breakfast to one of our favorite places. We enjoyed especially the

wonderful nature God created. We were just about to leave, when we saw this gorgeous creature – sitting there….. waiting. It looked

almost like it was smiling =) can you see it?

I am definitely not the most patient person in the world. And sometimes if a situation appears, I want to take a decision right away.

But then I realize: Oops, maybe I should have waited a few days and then take the decision. Of course it depends on

the situation and the consequences this decision might have.

I learned, that in important decisions it is better to wait, before I move forward and the next day the situation might look already a

bit clearer.

When I read this quote a few days ago, I thought: This explains it really well, what I experienced.

“Sometimes situations can feel so uncomfortable and rife with anxiety that we jump to action just to get the turmoil to go away. 

Instead, giving yourself that extra day, week, or month to digest the situation before moving forward is all you need to stay in control.

So sleep on it. Sometimes, while you’re waiting, things may surface that make your decision that much easier.”

( Book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy # 20)

 

??? What do you think of this quote? Have you experienced the same? How do you take decisions? Do you jump right into action? And why???

 

 

 

 

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Emotion versus Reason

Sometimes I am quite emotional and for me it is good to talk with people, who are not so emotional. But sometimes I find it irritating, when people don’t show emotions. It is good to have a healthy balance. I learn in some situations, not be be too emotional. I find this following quote helpful – both go together (emotions and reasons).  It’s not only emotion OR reason – both are important to pay attention to.

“For that next sticky situation that gives you grief, create an Emotion vs. Reason list. Grab a sheet of paper and give yourself a few quiet moments to list on the left what your emotions are telling you to do, and list on the right what your reason is telling you to do. Now consider where your emotions are clouding your judgment and where your reason ignores important emotional cues.”

(Quote: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #17)

 

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??? What is your experience with your emotions? Are you more the emotional type or more the reasoning            type???

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Take a break

 

How do you know that you need a break? Have a look at this foto: What comes to your mind?

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When I was studying many years ago and working as a teacher, I felt the stress very often – I would even say almost constantly. There was a lot of pressure to get things done and to be always prepared. When I look back, I think: How in the world did I manage all this workload? Yes, it’s true: when you don’t pay attention to your body and the stress “signs” and when you don’t recharge the “battery” early enough, than it will cause damage in some way.

“The human mind and body tell you through emotional and physiological reactions when it’s time to slow down and take a break. Watch for your unique reactions to stress such as fatigue, upset stomach, pounding headaches, canker sores, or your back going out. Take the time to recognize these signals and recharge your emotional battery before your stress causes damage to your system.”

Right now I am taking an online university course in nutrition and disease prevention and it is very interesting to see, that what you eat and put into your body has a great effect on your health. I think many people are sick, because of many reasons: stress, overworking, poor nutrition and many other factors.

The best thing is to have a balanced life! But it is not that easy to realize. Right now I have the privilege to practise a balanced lifestyle: enough sleep, exercise, walking, healthy cooking, spending time with friends (in real life or on skype), exercising my mind (online studies)… This is great!

The last 6,5 years I worked as a flight attendant and I realize now even more how stressful this was in general. There was no routine – every month, every week, every day looked different. Yes, it was very exciting at times, but after a while my body was really tired.

Even I as an extrovert became more introverted in my free time, because in my work environment I was constantly surrounded by hundreds of people. Also on each flight: different colleagues, different bosses, different passengers, different destination. After a while this was quite tiring.

I am very thankful that I can live a more steady life at the moment, which is probably more healthy than my lifestyle before

??? When do you know that it is time to take a break? How and when do you feel stressed?

??? How do you take “time out”? How do you live a healthy lifestyle???

Looking forward to hearing from you!

 

(Quote from the book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #15)

 

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Core values

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As you run around struggling to check your daily „to dos“ off your list, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s really important –your core values. Take the time to check in with yourself. Take a sheet of paper and list your values and then ask yourself if you’ve done or said anything recently that you aren’t proud of. Before long you’ll find yourself thinking of the list before you act.“

??? Do you have any experiences with “To do lists” and your core values???

(Book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #11)

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Disability

 

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As you probably discovered: I love quotes! Good quotes…

So today I read one, which I think is very true. I would like to hear your opinion about this quote from Fred Rogers:

“The problem with the word “disability” is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk.

But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in

constructive ways?

What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who live in

disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love?

These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”

 

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Feedback

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Do you like to give feedback to others? Do you like receiving feedback?

Yesterday I read a quote and want to ask you: what do you think about it?

 

“Feedback is a unique gift. It can be exactly what you needed to hear or it can miss the mark

entirely. To take feedback well, first consider the source. Listen closely to what’s really being said.

Ask questions or ask for examples to better understand. Whether you agree or not, thank the person.

Take time to absorb it and then decide what you will do or not do about it.”

( Book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0)

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Belonging

Just read this quote and thought it is worth posting it!

“Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.” Virginia Satir

??? What did you experience in your family or what do you think about this quote???

 

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