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Are you interested in others?

 

 

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Do you know people well? Are you open with your friends, aquaintances and family?

Do you understand them? Do you know why they do the things they do? Are you interested in them? How do you show that you are interested in them? How do you find out if you understand them?

I think many people don’t take the time to really understand a person. Instead they make up their mind why a person is the way she/ he is or why a person reacts a certain way. Many people are only interested in themselves and can’t bother to get to know other people very well.

I love it, when people ask me questions, because it shows that they are interested in me, want to know something about me or want to know my opinion about a topic. I also love to ask questions and find out more about people – I find it fascinating to get to know people on a deeper level. A great way is to ask questions.

When people know you well, there’s less room for them to misinterpret you. Make the time to be more open with friends, coworkers, or family about why you do the things you do. Also the more you show interest in them, the better shot you have at understanding them well, too. Be curious about who they are and why they do the things they do.“

It is good to ask questions – not only to people we don’t know (well), but also to people we know very well (or we think we know well). You will be surprised what you find out about a person when you ask them different questions. Sometimes we think that we know a person very well, but when we start asking questions we realize that we don’t.

??? What questions do you like asking??? What do you like about asking questions? Why don’t you ask questions? What holds you back from asking questions? What do you like about when others ask you questions???

(Quote: Book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy # 50)

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Emotional intelligence – how do you talk to others?

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For some people this comes more easy than for others, but we all can learn how to be better in this regard:

To be socially aware, you must be socially present and remove distractions- especially the ones inside your head. To clear away the clutter, don’t interrupt the other person, squelch the voice that is planning your response, and refocus your attention on the other person’s face and words.“

When you talk to others do you sometimes think what you will say or answer next? Watch yourself when you talk the next time to somebody, if you really listen to the person and if you really focus on their words. Are you also able to just pause after the person has said something or do you just want to „get rid“ of all your thoughts you have already in mind while the other person is talking?

What is your experience? When is it more easy for you to pause and when not?

( Book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #39)

 

 

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