For some people this comes more easy than for others, but we all can learn how to be better in this regard:
„To be socially aware, you must be socially present and remove distractions- especially the ones inside your head. To clear away the clutter, don’t interrupt the other person, squelch the voice that is planning your response, and refocus your attention on the other person’s face and words.“
When you talk to others do you sometimes think what you will say or answer next? Watch yourself when you talk the next time to somebody, if you really listen to the person and if you really focus on their words. Are you also able to just pause after the person has said something or do you just want to „get rid“ of all your thoughts you have already in mind while the other person is talking?
What is your experience? When is it more easy for you to pause and when not?
( Book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #39)