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How can I find my core values?

To all my dear followers!

Wishing you all a wonderful new year 2017!

Thanks so much for following me here on this blog…. I was a bit quiet the last year, because started a new blog – on my new website. If you want to have a look:

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Here is one article I posted there:




When people talked in the past years about values, I could never really grasp what values really are or how to find out my core values. Over the last years I „studied“ the topic values and understood that values are the foundation of our behavior. Have you ever asked yourself when you see people in different situations: „Why do they act so differently in this situations than I would? Or why are so many people frustrated in their job and would love to find a job they love? I think only when you know yourself and your values you are able to find work that is truly fulfilling.

First of all it is important to find out what your values are.

Values determine many things in your life: choices, attitudes, actions, decision making, work, passions, etc. They define what’s important to you.

Are you happy with your work? If yes, is it because your values align with your work? If no, could it be that your values no longer align with your work?

Values are deeply ingrained in us and often we are not consciously aware of what our values are or how they shape our actions.

It is very important to understand your core values – they are the heart of who you are.

Over the years I made a list of my core values.

But how do I find out my core values?

Think of something that makes you feel angry. When was it when a certain person in your life crossed an important line for you and that wasn’t in line with something you value?

Example: One of my five core values is honesty. When I see dishonesty in families, companies and organisations I get this „uncomfortable feeling“ inside of me and now it is up to me to decide what to do: do I bring it up or do I keep my mouth shut? And because I value honesty I usually open my mouth and bring things up – which is not always easy!

Imagine your value is honesty – can you imagine working or living in an environment where there is constant dishonesty? It will definitely will have an effect on you: mentally, spiritually & physically. So it is up to you to decide what action you take.

For me it is very important to know my core values and also to help my clients to discover their values. This is a powerful way how they can get in touch of who they are.

Here are some questions to discover your deepest values:

  • Where do you invest the best of your time, money and energy? Why?
  • When making important decisions – what are the things you base them on?
  • Imagine some valuable things in your life and ask yourself: „If these things were taken away from me or I couldn’t do them, would that make my life unbearable?
  • What makes you angry when you don’t get it (e.g. if you don’t „get“ honesty)?
  • What are things that you care most deeply about?

For your value discovery it might be helpful to have a list of values to choose from. Ask yourself: Which of these words resonate most with you? Which words represent what you care about most? Try to pick less than 10 and then find out your 5 core values – what is most important for you!

When I tried to find out my core values, it helped me to have a look at different value lists. But because there where so many different lists, I created my own – for me and to help my clients find out their own values. It is just a little help if you don’t come up with words yourself. If you are interested in my value list, go to the first page of my website and sign up to get this free value list:


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What is most important in life for you?

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What is most important in life for you?

If you would list your 5 most important values – which one would you write down? One of my values is for example: “Making a difference in people’s lives” and in my life coaching profession I ask myself this question: “How can I make a difference in women’s lives?” Often I feel overwhelmed and I don’t think that I can make a huge difference in people’s lives. But I read once that if I relieve the suffering of one person today I am making a difference. That means, I don’t need to think: “How can I help the whole world” – this is too overwhelming, but I can think: “How can I make a person happy today, how can I help someone in some way today?”

What do people suffer from? Of course there are a lot of people suffering from serious things and they require some professional help from a counsellor. But I am not talking about this here. I am now talking more about some “pain” you are facing each day on a “value level” – you are aware that you need some change in a few areas of your life, but you don’t know where to start or how to do it. Or you are not fulfilled in your life, you are not passionate about your job or you don’t know what your purpose in life is – in general and specific for you and your unique gifts.

These are just a few “pain points” you might have. The question is: how do you get help? From whom? How do you move forward in answering these questions? Have you given up answering these questions already or do you have fear facing them or are you afraid of change? What stops you from facing the important questions in life?

Whatever it might be: Take action today! How? You could ask a friend or family member to help you or you could look for a coach who will help you by asking the right questions to bring out in you the answers you already have inside yourself. The most important thing is: take action today. And remember: just take one action step at a time.

??? What action could you take this week to find answers to your questions???

??? What are your 5 core values??? How do you live them out every single day???

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