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Belonging

Just read this quote and thought it is worth posting it!

“Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.” Virginia Satir

??? What did you experience in your family or what do you think about this quote???

 

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Timing…

 

 

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Lately I am very busy, and I only post very short posts, but in a few months I try to do it more frequently again.

I read a quote lately which is very helpful for me:

“When dealing with people and their emotions, timing really is everything. You don’t ask for a favor when someone is angry or correct someone who feels threatened by you. To practice your timing with others, ask the right questions at the right time with the right frame of mind, all with your audience in mind.” (Strategy #35,in the book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, )

I guess I have to learn a lot finding the right timing when to talk and to be silent when it it not the right timing yet to talk!

It would be interesting to know what you think about this quote and how you deal or dealt with it so far!?

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Are you right-brained or left-brained?

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According to a personality test I did not long ago, I am more right-brained than left brained. What does this mean?

Right brain:

Focus is on images
Focus in on perception
Focus is on intuition&abstract thinking
Tends to be more creative and emotional
Likes to see the big picture from start to finish
Street smart

Some people are more left-brained. What does this mean?
Left brain:

Focus is on words
Focus is on reality
Focus is on logic & concrete thinking
Tends to be more analytical & literal
Comfortable working a piece of the process
Book smart
I can clearly see that I am more right-brained, because when I read through this characteristics above I can see myself.

The focus with right-brained people is for example on images. What kind of books do I buy? I like books which have a nice “outfit” – a nice type of font, colors and pictures/ cartoons/ illustrations rather than just plain writing without pictures.
I love when somebody sends me an ecard – cause it’s a picture with words.
When I send emails, I love to add “faces” which show emotions =)

I also tend to be more creative and emotional. This drives some left-brained people crazy: being too emotional. And I guess in some cases they are right =).
The question is: Am I controlled by my feelings or not?

I guess more women have this kind of “problem” sometimes, that they let their feelings control them. But it’s possible to “manage our emotions rather than allowing them to manage us.”
“If we have to wait to see how we feel before we know if we can enjoy the day, then we are giving feelings control over us. But thankfully we have free will and can make decisions that are not based on feelings.”

I think that everybody can think of examples in their lives, where the feelings took over and we did the wrong thing. Maybe somebody has treated you unfairly or hurt your feelings and you decide to shut them out of your life. It’s your choice what you do: you can pray for this person and forgive or you can act according to your feelings and “forfeit peace and joy.”
When I think of myself I guess sometimes there is a lot of pride involved, because I want to give in to my feelings, because I am so hurt. But I know that this is not the best way, because our feelings can “make us miserable and drive us to make choices we eventually regret.”

So it is my choice whether I let my feelings control me or not.
They say that “emotions are the Christian’s number one enemy because they can easily prevent us from following the will of God.”

This morning I was a bit emotional and my feelings wanted to take over. But: I chose not to let this happen! And it worked =)

I was a bit sad and not motivated today when I woke up, because after my long journey I waited now more than 3 days for my suitcase to arrive. I was pretty relaxed about it the last 3 days, but today I started to worry. But then I took action to find out what the problem was and I manged to control my feelings! I prayed, did some telephone calls and started to read a book about feelings =)
So this is why I came up with this post today!

It’s possible to control your feelings and not let them ruin your day!
??? Are you right-brained or left-brained???

??? Did you experience something, where your feelings controlled you or where you managed not letting your feelings control you???

 

(Quotes from: Living beyond your feelings – controlling emotions so they don’t control you, Joyce Meyer)

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Emotional Intelligence Development

 

“Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years.

All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers,

and with each other carry emotional messages.”

– Daniel Goleman –

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Talk about feelings

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“The problem with the word “disabilities” is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who live in dissappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”

-Fred Rogers-

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