„When we negate, deny, or disown our emotions we might find ourselves blowing up or 'going off' on others with little or no provocation. We can only repress our feelings for so long. Eventually, they will demand to be heard. When we pay attention to our emotions and not judge them as …
Are you interested in others?
Do you know people well? Are you open with your friends, aquaintances and family? Do you understand them? Do you know why they do the things they do? Are you interested in them? How do you show that you are interested in them? How do you find out if you understand them? I …
Your unique gift
„Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.“ - Albert Einstein - How often do you compare yourself to someone else? How often do you say to yourself: “She/ he is so good …
To understand each other (Part 5)
Paul Tournier writes in his book that in order to achieve understanding we need to accept our natural differences. He says that „instinctively, a very rational man is going to marry a very sentimental woman. Their complementing one another will, at the beginning, elicit an enthusiastic reaction in him. But later on he will want …
Emotional intelligence – how do you talk to others?
For some people this comes more easy than for others, but we all can learn how to be better in this regard: „To be socially aware, you must be socially present and remove distractions- especially the ones inside your head. To clear away the clutter, don't interrupt the other person, squelch the voice that is …
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Being in a hurry
“Being in a hurry. Getting to the next thing without fully entering the thing in front of me. I cannot think of a single advantage I've ever gained from being in a hurry. But a thousand broken and missed things, tens of thousands, lie in the wake of all the rushing.... Through all that …
To understand each other (Part 4)
How do we achieve understanding? Paul Tournier writes in his book*: „One who feels understood feels loved, and one who feels loved feels sure of being understood. (…) Deep sharing is overwhelming, and very rare. A thousand fears keep us in check. First of all there is the fear of breaking down, of crying. There …
Passion
"Working hard for something we don't care about is called stress; working hard for something we love is called passion." -Simon Sinek- ??? What is your passion? What do you love doing? What motivates you? What stresses you out? Â Â Â Â For what do you work hard???
To understand each other (Part 3)
Paul Tournier points out that many couples who are married for a few years no longer „really talk to each other.“ And he means REAL talk, not only secondary matters, but „matters that are really essential, intimate, personal. After a few years the „thirst for discovery and for understanding has been dried. The problem is …
To understand each other (Part 2)
Here comes the continuation of my summary of the book „To understand each other. Classic wisdom on marriage“, Paul Tournier. I think the author has some interesting and valid points - I think: I am not even married one year, so I am looking forward to read your comments =) I try to excerpt the …
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