Three weeks ago I moved basically to the other end of the world. While packing some personal things, I found a little notebook with some notes I made a few years ago. I wrote down some points which I read in a book* and I came to the conclusion to keep this notebook. Because the author points out some interesting things I think it’s worth sharing here on the blog.
Why are some people stronger than others?
„Inner power, inner strength makes all the difference in those who are secure. Secure in their social interactions with others – secure within themselves.“
Jane Lind says that power means being filled up and a lack of power is emtiness and having no strength.
„Inner power comes from feeling loved. Those who have been filled with the power of love are powerful and have little need to struggle for power.Without inner power, there can be no inner peace.
The more powerless we feel, the more we will struggle. And the more we struggle, the less we will have peace within. Whether the problem is a struggle within ourselves (e.g. problem with weight) or whether the problem is an exchange with another person.“
The author tells a story about a guy: „One would never know from looking at him on the outside that anything was wrong. I don’t understand why I have always felt something was missing. Although Tom’s parents had given him everything he could want in material, they had not given him the inner power that only comes from being loved. Tom went along trying to earn, trying to earn love, trying to be filled up.
On the other hand Jane Lind describes a girl/ woman who experienced following:
„Maria grew up in a poor section. She had to resist drugs and crime and worked long hours after school. She had never known her father. Maria was born to a teenage mother. But Maria had inner peace. Maria was happy, cheerful, warm and loving. Maria was given consistent love and acceptance by her mother. Maria was powerful.
We start our life as empty vessels. We need to be charged like a battery. We can be charged with positive power or negative power or a mixture of both.
If we are not filled with positive power as a child or do not find, later in life, a person who loves us enough to fill us with the inner power of love and/ or do not experience the love of God through Christ, then we may feel empty or we may fill ourselves with negative power.
Love is positive power. Without love, we feel powerless, empty of power.
We need God’s love, but we also need love from others. We each, individuallyneed to receive love from at least one other human being.
Unless this love is received, it will not help. Love may be there, being offered, but often, because someone doesn’t feel worthy and/ or cannot believe that anyone would love him or her, and therefore is not open to accepting this love, it will not be received. There are those with personality problems, emotional and mental illness, who put up barriers to receiving love, even that which comes from God. There are those who have built up a defence and let not anyone love them.
Whether we are powerful or not, award titles and money do not make a lasting impression in terms of inner peace and strength. After attaining these, we very often still feel power empty.
Someone, not something, must give us love. Objects and positions alone are not enough to make us powerful.“
My notes end here and I forgot, if I put the book in my boxes I sent to my new home, or if I left the book behind.
When I think of the many people I met all over the world, I think it’s true what Jane Lind is saying in her book.
???Think about people you know or think about your own life. What did you experience? Do you think that the thoughts are valid?
* Book: Powerdigm, Jane Lind (1998)