Did you ever experienced that you said something and the other person thought she/he understood what you were saying – I mean REALLY understood what you meant?
I think communication and really understanding what the other person is saying, is not that easy. It can be the communication in a relationship, with a friend, with parents, with kids, with colleagues. It’s always good to ask the other person: Is it this what you meant? Did I understand you right? What do you mean by this…?
I read a good quote what is worth thinking of:
“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.”
???How do you communicate? Do people understand what you say? What do you do to make sure that you understood the other person???
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Thank you for helping us with the communication situation. I have messed up over and over again at it, so am asking for His help each time I speak or write!
Thank you Debbie for your comment! So true what you say!
When I read this post, I immediately thought of the “five love-languages” … have you heard about them?
Thanks Heidi! Yes, the 5 languages of love are a great help in understanding each other and in loving the other person in ways she/he can “understand”.
I think: Before we understand a person, we have to understand what feelings we have, what we’re thinking of.
Thanks Lolite for taking time to comment on my post!
Excellent post and relevant to everyday relationships. I think its best to take a pause, before blurting something out because it does many things such as: give time for our emotions to calm down, help us think about something we say so that we do not regret the content of our words and lastly “actually listen” to what the other person is saying.
Yes, you said it very well! Thanks for your comment!
I said to a client just the other day, “I know you heard my words, but I don’t think you heard my heart.” We need to listen not to respond, but to truly understand.
Thanks Linda for the beautiful comment! So true!