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Change

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Are you a person who likes change or are you very constant and you don’t like change?

What was a major change in your life lately? Where you fearful or hopeful before the change happened? How did the thought of the change make you feel?

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful, it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident, it is inspiring because the challenge now exists to make things better.” King Whitney Jr.

What’s the next change in your life? How do you approach it? How can you approach it differently this time? What opportunities might the change bring in your life?

??? I am interested to hear about your experiences how you approach change???

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Your emotions effect others

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How does it effect you when others around you are in a bad mood, say bad words or just look bored? I think some people literally “take” the emotions of others on themselves, it effects them a lot how other people behave. Some people seem to not care at all and they live in their own world and for them it’s not a “big deal” how others react and show their emotions.

Have you noticed that you impact others with your behavior?

Emotions are the primary drivers of your behavior. It’s important you understand the effect they have on the people around you. To observe the ripple effects from your emotions, watch the immediate impact in other people’s faces or behavior or ask them how they are affected by your emotions.”

I think very sensitive people “feel” the emotions of other people and it has an effect on them. Watch yourself how the behavior of others effect you and how your behavior effects others.

??? What’s your experience ???

(Quote: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Strategy #2)

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Habits

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How are you doing so far with reaching your goals in 2015? Have you gone back to your old habits already? Do you think: “Why should I bother….?”

I realized that some people have problems moving forward, because they have bad habits and they don’t overcome these habits.

If you just live your life like you used to, what happens? Some people are very driven, but some people are not, they don’t take “action steps” in their life, they are discouraged and tired and think: what can I do, how can I make things work, how can I change?

It is very important that young people have good role models and that they “accumulate” good habits in their first half of life.

It seems, in fact, as though the second half of a man’s life is made up of nothing but the habits he has accumulated during the first half.”

-Fyodor Dostoevsky

Have you accumulated good habits in your first half of your life? Which are good habits? Which are bad habits? Which habits do you want to keep? Which habits do you want to get rid of? When do you want to get rid of these habits? How do you want to get rid of some habits? Who can help you?

It is a blessing if you grew up in a good family where you saw your parents having good and healthy habits.

It takes a lot of effort to form new habits at a certain age, but its possible! The question is: how determined are you to change bad habits?

Think of one habit which you want to get rid of in 2015. How will you achieve this? What will help you? Who will help you? 

Start today living a healthier life in all areas of your life: family, work, community, self and start accumulating good habits!

??? Tell me one or two good habits that you have??? And if you like – which habit do you want to get rid of???

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Resolutions for 2015? How do you succeed? Why do you fail?

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One of my resolutions this year is to read through the Bible in one year. I do this with an APP (BiOY), where Nicky Gumbel (a Vicar from England) puts readings together from the Old and New Testament and then he writes a very good (in my opinion) explanation about these chapters and how we can apply them in our daily life.

January 1 he wrote: “ I belong to a squash club that is also a gym. Each year on 1 January they bring in extra gym equipment. The place is packed out. By about 7 January, they move out all the extra equipment as most people have given up their New Year’s resolution and the club returns to normal!” *

Today is the 7th January. Have you already given up on your New Year’s resolution? Or don’t you even bother making a resolution, because it never works?

Why do you give up and why does nothing really changes – even if you want it so badly?

Dr. W. Edwards Deming says: “Nothing changes without personal transformation.”

I guess this is the key!

Most people’s tendency is to try and manipulate their environment, e.g. they change jobs, friends, spouses… But the real answer is not the external, but the internal. Personal transformation will lead to a transformation in other areas of your life.

Some people are not intentional in their personal development and that is why they grow very little. The people who focus on personal development grow rapidly, e.g. socially, in their marriage, in character, spiritually, in their physical fitness and health, in service to others…

That’s why I love coaching so much, it focuses on the present and the future. Through the coaching process the client is able to see more clarity. It is like having on glasses, seing a clear picture, whereas before it was very blurry.

Often I find it hard to focus, because I have so many thoughts and ideas in my head and I don’t know sometimes how to bundle them. In our world there are so much “noises” and impressions around us that it is hard to focus on the things that are (most) important to us.

A life coach helps to focus. I experience this with my life coach. Sometimes I think I don’t really have anything to talk about, but after the coaching session I feel encouraged and I have specific action steps to do, which I wouldnt have really focused on one hour by myself. And my coach keeps me accountable which I find very helpful!

A coach focuses on potential, he sees peoples abilities for what they are at this moment and what they can become. People are always changing – but not always developing. To develop means to increase in understanding, skill or character.

Are you intentional in your personal development? How did you develop personally in the last year? How could you develop (more) in 2015?

Do you know people who expanded a lot in their professional life, but not in their personal life? Some people take on a lot of responsibilities in their professional life and learn and grow, but in their personal development they limp.

A lack of holistic development in one area of life can negatively effect other more developed areas of a person’s life, e.g. lack of character development – especially people in their 30’s (or 40’s), when they have a lot of responsibilities in their professional life. Have you seen leaders “crash”, because their personal, spiritual and character foundation couldn’t support their expanded professional responsibilities?

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

As a life coach I ask my clients mainly questions. And through these questions they reflect, think critical, think creative, think in different directions, make decisions.

Have you noticed that when you make a decision out of “yourself” and this decision is not forced unto you – you are most likely to do it? That is how coaching works: it draws out what is in the client – the client has the answer! The coach only helps to draw out what is inside the client already.

The coaching process is focused on discovery. The client discovers with the help of the coach: new self-awareness, insights, ideas, learning, attitudes, facts, realizations…

After this discovery what happens next? If the process would stop here it would have been only a nice conversation with not much change.

Without action there is no change. Now comes the action!

(summary Keith E.Webb: Core Coaching Skills).

Example: if you make a new years resolution that you want to loose weight and you don’t put this into action (e.g. exercising, eating healthy), nothing will change – it only stays a wish, but there will be no change. Also if you don’t explore the “WHY” probably nothing changes or only for a short period of time. Ask yourself: Why do you want to loose weight and what benefits will it have?

Without asking the question why and then taking action steps you will probably fall back into bad habits and you will give up your resolution of loosing weight.

Nothing changes without personal transformation.” (Dr. W. Edwards Deming)

??? What are your thoughts on personal transformation??? How do you put into action what you discovered, what you want to do or what you want to become??? Who helps you with personal transformation??? How do you know that you grow personally (e.g. in character)???

(* BiOY APP, Author: Nicky and Pippa Gumbel)

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If you want to know more about how to find your life purpose, your strengths, your potential, goals, dreams, inner peace and joy if you want to live a satisfying life and see personal growth, then coaching might be for you. You can find more here:

http://spokefire.com/tabea-kraska/

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Change

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Did you go through a change in the last months or the last year? What kind of change was it? How did you feel?

I had a few changes in the last months. Usually I find that change is good and gives me new opportunities. But at the same time it is also sometimes a bit scary, because of the unknown – but overall it is exciting and opens new doors and new possibilities.

Here is a quote I read a few days ago which I found very helpful and accurate:

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful, it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident, it is inspiring because the challenge now exists to make things better.“

– King Whitney Jr.-

??? Which “type” are you? The fearful, the hopeful or the confident???

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Emotional self-awareness

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“Emotional self-awareness is the ability to recognize your feelings, differentiate between them, know why you are feeling these feelings, and recognize the impact your feelings have on others around you.”

The most important thing what comes first is: emotional self-awareness – that you explore and understand yourself. Only then you are able to change.
Because if you don’t recognize what you are doing, why you are doing it and the way it effects others, you cannot change. You think of yourself: “nothing is wrong with me” – so therefore you don’t see the need to change.

If we are not conscious of what we are feeling we won’t be successful in:

– building key relationships
– noticing when we are feeling stressed
– our capacity for empathy
– offering sensitively verbal communication to others

This ability of emotional self-awareness will “empower you to work toward improvement in all of emotional intelligence’s other areas. Without it, though you might sincerely try to address problems one by one, you’d end up going round in circles. You’d get no feedback; you’d be unable to monitor your progress (…).”

People who have a lot of self-awareness see, when they are “out of sorts, irritable, sad, or seductive, and perceive how these feelings alter their behavior in a way that may alienate others. Usually, they can also figure out what incident precipitated their feelings. The capacity to know what they are feeling and how they are behaving allows them a degree of control over their potentially alienating behavior.”

(quotes and content from: E-Book: The IQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and your success; 3rd Edition, Steven J. Stein, Ph.D., Howard E.Book, M.D.

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