Lately I read a little book about marriage. I saw so many different couples in my life and thought a lot about this topic. It is so sad, that so many marriages fail and the question is why?
I thank God that I grew up in a very stable family environment, with loving parents and sisters. In my surrounding I never really experienced marriage breakups, this was quite foreign for me. Nowadays it is so sad to see so many couples break up.
So I thought I write in the next posts about a book from a Swiss physician (Paul Tournier), who made a significant contribution to understanding of psychiatry and its relation to the Christian faith.
On the spine of his book: „To understand each other. Classic wisdom on marriage“, Paul Tournier you can read the following:
He writes that the „major problem is „to understand each other.“ He says: „When we talk of marriage counseling we think immideately of the extreme cases, of threats to seek divorce, of couples in violent disputes who frequently come to blows.“ But there are many other couples whose marriages are no less a failure. „They live side by side, without hurting one another, but poles apart, because of no real understanding of one another.“ Courship’s complete frankness has given way to superficial exchanges of information. The husband and wife fail to realize that they are hiding part of their real feelings from each other.
Paul Tournier says, that he sees many couple and „behind their difficulties I always discover a lack of mutual openness, a loyal and total openness to one another without which there can be no real understanding.“ And the ability to understand each other is what counts in working out marital happiness together. In his book: „To understand each other – classic wisdom on marriage“ he suggests ways to achieve this understanding.“
My next post will contain excerpts of his book.
??? What did you experience with this topic so far???
6 Replies to “Understanding each other (Part 1)”
Sounds like a good book. My wife and I have only been married for 29 years so we’re still trying to figure it out 🙂
🙂 thanks unshakable hope for your comment! Wow:29 years! This is great! Yes, it’s a very good book. You will read more soon!
And what about humility… sharing… compassion…
I didn’t read any book about it, nor I wish, but for us respect and sharing are the aims in our marriage (we are a couple since 20, married since 17 yrs.) Hugs & happiness :-)claudine
That’s great Claudine! I agree! 🙂
Excellent article and by the way the photograph is absolutely brilliant. Keep up the great work
Thank you very much!