Lately I am very busy, and I only post very short posts, but in a few months I try to do it more frequently again.
I read a quote lately which is very helpful for me:
“When dealing with people and their emotions, timing really is everything. You don’t ask for a favor when someone is angry or correct someone who feels threatened by you. To practice your timing with others, ask the right questions at the right time with the right frame of mind, all with your audience in mind.” (Strategy #35,in the book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0, )
I guess I have to learn a lot finding the right timing when to talk and to be silent when it it not the right timing yet to talk!
Heidi Viars said,
July 20, 2013 @ 7:38 am
so true … I think timing has much to do with communicating well … Maybe timing is closely related to self control and the ability to keep the tongue controlled until a better time 🙂 … I have such a long way to go!
colouryourdream said,
July 20, 2013 @ 7:58 am
Thanks Heidi! You said it so well… Self control! So true! Thanks for this great comment! I love when people comment!
neenslewy said,
July 20, 2013 @ 12:18 pm
This is true and I hadn’t thought of it like that – it would solve some relationship communication issues instantly, at work as well as friendships. So often we need to ask in the moment – in this instant access world we consume our lives in, often it is not the right time.
Funny because as children I think most of us are aware that if you want something from a parent you wait until the right time, the optimum moment – why should real life be any different?
I will bear this in mind!
colouryourdream said,
July 20, 2013 @ 12:44 pm
Thanks so much for your great comment!
Unshakable Hope said,
July 20, 2013 @ 3:19 pm
Very true! I finally figured it out after 28 years of marriage:-)
colouryourdream said,
July 20, 2013 @ 3:39 pm
Thanks for your honesty! I will try and not let it be 28 years of figuring it out:)
Maryt said,
July 22, 2013 @ 3:09 pm
Thank you for this good advice. Good reminder for relationships.
lessonsbyheart said,
July 23, 2013 @ 1:08 am
The book, Emotional Intelligence, sounds fantastic – like something I needed earlier in my life. It would have saved me much heartache!
I’d have to agree with you, timing is crucial…not as a means of manipulation, but out of consideration for the other person…treat them like I’d want to be treated.
Thanks for sharing!
\o/
colouryourdream said,
July 23, 2013 @ 7:06 am
Thanks so much for sharing!
granonine said,
August 3, 2013 @ 4:16 pm
Plain commone sense—which we often lack 🙂
colouryourdream said,
August 3, 2013 @ 4:18 pm
🙂 that is true! Thanks for your comment!